Artificial Bae

Unable to breath

My heart clenched in your palm

Such a beautiful hurt

In a time all wrong

 

A master of hours

I wish it were me

It is you

For whom my heart beats

 

To the rhythm of a song

All its own

With a cadence unmatched

I'm left alone

 

I have created in my mind

A man who in time

Would requite a divine love

A divine love like mine

 

That which parallels

The immensely intense

Unadulterated love

That I've felt ever since

Let's Talk About It

Let's talk about the beef

Let's talk about the streets

Let's talk about the grief

Let's talk about the bleak

 

Let's talk about all the things that these people never see

 

Let's talk about the pain

Let's talk about the strain

Let's talk about the gain

Let's talk about the strange

 

Let's talk about the things that we say we're going to change

 

Let's talk about destruction

Let's talk about corruption

Let's talk about production

Let's talk about reconstruction

 

Let's talk about all the ways that we as a people can function

 

Let's Talk About It

False Security

If I could turn back the hours

I'd turn it to three

To a place in time

When my heart was complete

My heart was full

And your love was a drag

It was some of the best dope

I had ever had

But chaos and confusion

both ensued

It soon became clear

I was being abused

As your bag lady

I had allowed it

I took you on that high

I was your pilot

While coming down

As we made our descent

It was increasingly clear

It was you I resent

So, unto you I

Bid my fairest farewell

For it was you that waged war

May you burn in hell

Cheating: Common Misconceptions

CHEAT (v):1.) deceive somebody: to deceive or mislead somebody, especially for personal advantage
2.) be unfaithful: to have a sexual relationship with somebody other than a spouse or regular sexual partner

In light of these definitions it’s safe to say that someone who commits such acts is a cheater so why is it then that I stumble across people who seem to have come up with their own definition for the word? I’ll tell you why, because these people are idiots to say the least.

I’ve had people go so far as to tell me that it isn’t cheating if you and your significant other are in different area codes. Are you kidding me?! But wait, I’ve only had men tell me that nonsense. Aaah, yes, that explains it! Continuing, I’ve also heard that it isn’t cheating if you guys have never had sex but you’ve engaged in other sexual activities which include but are not limited to: kissing and fondling. BULLSHIT. It’s all considered cheating. If you’re in a relationship and on a date with someone (other than your partner) who you’d like to be more than just your friend then it’s cheating--I don’t care how you slice it.

What I can’t understand is why these women (and men but more so women) are so quick to run back to these men after they’ve blatantly disrespected them and showed how much they don’t give a muthafudge. WAIT, I know why, because "he loves me" so it's okay.

(to be continued)…

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In other words...

This is a translation of all the most common things that guys say. You know how whenever you're having a conversation with a guy and he says one thing but you're not sure if it's genuine? Well this is what he really means:

• When are you going to come visit me?

IN OTHER WORDS: When are you coming over so I can try to have sex with you?

• Whatever happens happens.

IN OTHER WORDS: I would like sex to happen and if it doesn't what will happen is I will eventually stop talking to you.

• I'm not ready for a relationship.

IN OTHER WORDS: I'm not into you enough to make you my girlfriend but I'm always open to sex.

• I'll call you.

IN OTHER WORDS: I won't call you and if I do it'll be for my own benefit.

• You're like a sister to me.

IN OTHER WORDS: I am in no way interested in you on a sexual level. We're just friends but I'm a moron who doesn't know how to say what I mean.

• I can't give you the attention you deserve.

IN OTHER WORDS: I'm a really crappy person who has his own best interest in mind.

• I don't like everyone in my business.

IN OTHER WORDS: I'm a sneaky liar and cheater (if given the opportunity).

• (in response to "what are you doing?") Thinking about you.

IN OTHER WORDS: I wasn't thinking about you but I need to make sure I have you just where I want you.

• Stop being scary.

IN OTHER WORDS: Stop being so difficult and let's just have sex. And oh yeah, I'm an idiot with poor persuasion techniques.

• I love you.

IN OTHER WORDS: I love how you love me.

disclaimer: Now, don't get me wrong he may actually be sincere when he says any of these things but as history has shown me 8 times out of ten he really means something other than what he's saying. It's up to you to note and study carefully his actions so you can properly determine whether or not he's an "in other words" type of guy.

*if you feel that I have left out any other common lines please tell me and I'll gladly add them. Oh yeah, and follow me on twitter http://twitter.com/just_shanelle.

The Under Wire Push-Up Bra

I'm up relatively early on a Friday morning considering the fact that I don't have a job or any real things to do today. I'm just sitting here staring into space really. What am I thinking about? Good question. I'm actually thinking about my past relationships (and I use that word loosely) and how at the time I thought I was "in love," so to speak. It's become clear that I was never "in love" with that person rather the potential that I saw in them. That's crazy isn't it?! I bet many have never thought of it like that. Potential is like an underwire [padded] push-up bra. That is, like a push-up bra it gives the illusion that someone is different from what they really are. Imagine the disappointment on a guy's face when he realizes your c-cups are really a-cups. Scary isn't it?! It makes it hard to determine whether a person is really as they are or if we're being deceived [by potential].

How can we avoid such trickery? Well first, you need to know that potential is the capacity to become something more than the actuality. So, if you are talking to or dating someone that only exhibits certain characteristics every once in a while and doesn't permanently employ them then chances are you're attracted their potential [to grow]. But see, that doesn't mean they'll ever grow, all that means is that he/she could change and while change is inevitable you can never predict which areas this change will occur. However, that's not to say abandon your significant other upon the discovery that you're attracted to their potential.

Some people do change and you might be lucky enough to have someone who's willing to do that. If you feel you're with someone who will [eventually] change then go ahead and stay with them. But if you know you're stuck with someone who isn't willing to meet you half way then you need to be on the first thing smokin' because at that point it becomes a waste of your time--valuable time that you could invest in someone else.

Dead End, Turn Around.

And it still stands, guys will always be full of shit. That's somethin' that'll never change. They'll lie to you every chance they get, but for no reason. Do not invest in those dead end relationships, you know, the ones where the guy claims he doesn't want a girlfriend or where he claims he doesn't want everyone in his business so he wants to keep it on the low, that just means he's tryin' to screw anything walkin' and some shit that doesn't. haha. If he tells you you're the one for him, he's lying through his off white teeth. If he has some suspect ass shit in his away message and when you press him about it he has some faulty ass excuse, he's hiding something. If he tells you you're wifey, that may be true until he gets bored or a cuter piece of ass walks past and BOOM, just like that you have been dethroned. If he acts like he's jealous of other guys you're friends with, he's not, that's just his way of asserting his dominance in you guys' half assed relationship and it's also his way of making sure you're all about him when he's not all about you. Ooh, but I'm just sayin' tho, don't mind me. =)