Cheating: Common Misconceptions

CHEAT (v):

1.) deceive somebody: to deceive or mislead somebody, especially for personal advantage
2.) be unfaithful: to have a sexual relationship with somebody other than a spouse or regular sexual partner

In light of these definitions it’s safe to say that someone who commits such acts is a cheater so why is it then that I stumble across people who seem to have come up with their own definition for the word? I’ll tell you why, because these people are idiots to say the least.

I’ve had people go so far as to tell me that it isn’t cheating if you and your significant other are in different area codes. Are you kidding me?! But wait, I’ve only had men tell me that nonsense. Aaah, yes, that explains it! Continuing, I’ve also heard that it isn’t cheating if you guys have never had sex but you’ve engaged in other sexual activities which include but are not limited to: kissing and fondling. BULLSHIT. It’s all considered cheating. If you’re in a relationship and on a date with someone (other than your partner) who you’d like to be more than just your friend then it’s cheating--I don’t care how you slice it.

What I can’t understand is why these women (and men but more so women) are so quick to run back to these men after they’ve blatantly disrespected them and showed how much they don’t give a muthafudge. WAIT, I know why, because "he loves me" so it's okay.

(to be continued)…

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The Element

General Properties

»Name: Love

»Symbol: Lo

»Number: infinite

»Category: non-metal

»Atomic weight: unknown

»Color: colorless

LOVE is the most abundant yet rarely used elements. Like a masked villian its true identity is unknown. It's highly reactive and becomes unstable when mixed with lies. Has the ability to take on many forms making it the most deceptive of the elements. If used correctly can protect [you] from all sorts of pain and heartache. However, it's being depleted by those who don't hold proper knowledge of it. It is imperative that we replenish it before we are swallowed up by that which is superficial.

In other words...

This is a translation of all the most common things that guys say. You know how whenever you're having a conversation with a guy and he says one thing but you're not sure if it's genuine? Well this is what he really means:

• When are you going to come visit me?

IN OTHER WORDS: When are you coming over so I can try to have sex with you?

• Whatever happens happens.

IN OTHER WORDS: I would like sex to happen and if it doesn't what will happen is I will eventually stop talking to you.

• I'm not ready for a relationship.

IN OTHER WORDS: I'm not into you enough to make you my girlfriend but I'm always open to sex.

• I'll call you.

IN OTHER WORDS: I won't call you and if I do it'll be for my own benefit.

• You're like a sister to me.

IN OTHER WORDS: I am in no way interested in you on a sexual level. We're just friends but I'm a moron who doesn't know how to say what I mean.

• I can't give you the attention you deserve.

IN OTHER WORDS: I'm a really crappy person who has his own best interest in mind.

• I don't like everyone in my business.

IN OTHER WORDS: I'm a sneaky liar and cheater (if given the opportunity).

• (in response to "what are you doing?") Thinking about you.

IN OTHER WORDS: I wasn't thinking about you but I need to make sure I have you just where I want you.

• Stop being scary.

IN OTHER WORDS: Stop being so difficult and let's just have sex. And oh yeah, I'm an idiot with poor persuasion techniques.

• I love you.

IN OTHER WORDS: I love how you love me.

disclaimer: Now, don't get me wrong he may actually be sincere when he says any of these things but as history has shown me 8 times out of ten he really means something other than what he's saying. It's up to you to note and study carefully his actions so you can properly determine whether or not he's an "in other words" type of guy.

*if you feel that I have left out any other common lines please tell me and I'll gladly add them. Oh yeah, and follow me on twitter http://twitter.com/just_shanelle.

The Under Wire Push-Up Bra

I'm up relatively early on a Friday morning considering the fact that I don't have a job or any real things to do today. I'm just sitting here staring into space really. What am I thinking about? Good question. I'm actually thinking about my past relationships (and I use that word loosely) and how at the time I thought I was "in love," so to speak. It's become clear that I was never "in love" with that person rather the potential that I saw in them. That's crazy isn't it?! I bet many have never thought of it like that. Potential is like an underwire [padded] push-up bra. That is, like a push-up bra it gives the illusion that someone is different from what they really are. Imagine the disappointment on a guy's face when he realizes your c-cups are really a-cups. Scary isn't it?! It makes it hard to determine whether a person is really as they are or if we're being deceived [by potential].

How can we avoid such trickery? Well first, you need to know that potential is the capacity to become something more than the actuality. So, if you are talking to or dating someone that only exhibits certain characteristics every once in a while and doesn't permanently employ them then chances are you're attracted their potential [to grow]. But see, that doesn't mean they'll ever grow, all that means is that he/she could change and while change is inevitable you can never predict which areas this change will occur. However, that's not to say abandon your significant other upon the discovery that you're attracted to their potential.

Some people do change and you might be lucky enough to have someone who's willing to do that. If you feel you're with someone who will [eventually] change then go ahead and stay with them. But if you know you're stuck with someone who isn't willing to meet you half way then you need to be on the first thing smokin' because at that point it becomes a waste of your time--valuable time that you could invest in someone else.

Stay Your A** at Home!

Have you ever noticed that whenever you go to a party, club, or even a kickback there's always that group of girls that think they're too good to socialize? Now, I must admit these girls are usually very pretty and well dressed but that does not make up for their poor people skills. They prance around the room and whenever a guy tries to speak to them they look at him like he has s**t on his face. At this point I'll give them the benefit of the doubt and conclude that she simply was not feelin' him but after passing on the 2nd, 3rd, 4th AND 5th attempts it becomes clear that she has a serious "I'm thee s**t" complex. Like yeah girl you're pretty and all but your attitude just knocked you down a few notches on the totem pole. You know that by coming out you risk being approached by guys so why come out if you're going to act stuck up?! You might as well stay your a** at home!

Dead End, Turn Around.

And it still stands, guys will always be full of shit. That's somethin' that'll never change. They'll lie to you every chance they get, but for no reason. Do not invest in those dead end relationships, you know, the ones where the guy claims he doesn't want a girlfriend or where he claims he doesn't want everyone in his business so he wants to keep it on the low, that just means he's tryin' to screw anything walkin' and some shit that doesn't. haha. If he tells you you're the one for him, he's lying through his off white teeth. If he has some suspect ass shit in his away message and when you press him about it he has some faulty ass excuse, he's hiding something. If he tells you you're wifey, that may be true until he gets bored or a cuter piece of ass walks past and BOOM, just like that you have been dethroned. If he acts like he's jealous of other guys you're friends with, he's not, that's just his way of asserting his dominance in you guys' half assed relationship and it's also his way of making sure you're all about him when he's not all about you. Ooh, but I'm just sayin' tho, don't mind me. =)

Silly Rabbit--tricks are for kids

TOPIC: Girls who add you on facebook/myspace just to see your pics, read your comments, see who you fuckin' with, etc.

So I'm sure a lot of girls [including myself] are guilty of such fiendish behavior. But like got damn, if you gon add the girl be a little less obvious about it. Like some girl added me cuz I'm pretty sure she tryin' to see if I talk to ol' boy which by the way is our ONLY mutual friend so smh at her. Like got damn little mama. She might as well have left me a wall posting sayin' "I only added you because I'm nosey as fuck and I wanna see what you and ol' boy got goin on. Oh, and I wanna get my face punched in." lmao. Jk bout the face part. But yall follow me?! And she prolly went through all my pics thinkin' "oh she not that cute, she don't look better than me. He could do better." lmao. Clearly she's in denial cuz we all know I'm where it's at. So then she gon report back to her little minions and they gon go to my page, look at my pics, and be like "oh yeah, you right, she not that cute. Why this bitch got blonde hair? That shit ugly" just because they're good friends. But once more, we already know I'm where it's at so they playin' theyself. Got damn these hoes ain't got no manners.